Onward & Upward

Since I last posted so many things have happened. Kian and I moved away from his Father and my ex-husband and into an actual house with a huge backyard with my boyfriend. He's doing SOOOO much better here. He's finally gaining weight and thriving and starting to get past those behavioral issues from being preemie. He had a WIC appointment today and he now weighs 26.2 pounds and is 35 inches tall. He's my little stringbean. He goes to the Dragonfly Preschool here in Dallas every Tuesday and Thursday from 8:30am to 11:15am. He LOVES riding the bus to school and is adjusting to being around other kids and new people extremely well. The TANF orientation didn't go very well. I had to leave because he went into tantrum mode and so I go back this next week and Mom is going to come by and get him off the bus so that I can get that ball rolling. I need to be enrolled in the jobs program so I can get childcare assistance. I need that to be able to find a job. There are concerns with him having visitation with his "father" because it is sporadic and he is moving in with his girlfriend of a month and a half. I am not comfortable with them putting him in an animal pen to keep him corralled and with her slapping his hand hard enough to leave a mark instead of telling him no. I feel that this is something that his "father" should be doing. And I am hesitant on modifying things because of how much Daniel will fight me on them. He has three kids but doesn't really care about any of them. He wants to modify everything so he pays less and less support to us and it's not right. If he has money to go play and take his girlfriend and her kid to dinner and stuff all the time then he should man up and take care of the kids he ACTUALLY has. I am working on getting things modified through child support to possibly include supervised visitation because of the concerns I have with the way he is treated by Daniel and his girlfriend. Since living here apart from Daniel he has been growing by leaps and bounds and is actually finally starting to be a kid and live a good life. I think this is best for all of us if Daniel has limited contact with him. The behavioral problems when he comes home from Daniel and his girlfriend's place are puzzling to me. It makes me wonder what is really going on there.