Holiday Update

Kian is growing and thriving in the new apartment. He LOVES going to school and makes a mad dash for the bus when the bus comes to pick him up for school. He's making so many changes and getting so inquisitive about everything. The biggest thing right now is the Christmas Tree. He has taken it upon himself to try and un-decorate it a couple times because the glass ornaments are pretty and shiny and sparkly. He will however leave it alone when told a firm "no" and move onto something else. I still have to wrap his gifts and get them under the tree which I am sure will entice him even more but seeing the wonderment in his eyes when the lights are on and stuff is pure magic. He is gaining weight slowly but surely. I need to make a WIC appointment and get him back in that. One issue we have addressed with school is the "you hit, you sit" form of discipline. This seems to work well because he understands that sitting where he is put is a time out. He doesn't like it. He doesn't do too much more headbutting so that is a plus. He will start going to school three days a week after the Holiday Break which will thrill him to no end and give me some much needed Mommy time to get stuff done around the apartment. We are settling into a routine and he has seen his Dad a couple times this week since Daniel split up with his live in girlfriend. Kian needs his Daddy. I have made that VERY clear. Things got better for Kian and I both when I moved out of the house we had with Jeremy. I feel bad about putting Kian through the mental and emotional abuse I not only suffered but that he had to have suffered to some extent as well. You wouldn't know it though because Kian is the HAPPIEST and most LOVING little boy. I honestly couldn't ask for a better child. =)

Onward & Upward

Since I last posted so many things have happened. Kian and I moved away from his Father and my ex-husband and into an actual house with a huge backyard with my boyfriend. He's doing SOOOO much better here. He's finally gaining weight and thriving and starting to get past those behavioral issues from being preemie. He had a WIC appointment today and he now weighs 26.2 pounds and is 35 inches tall. He's my little stringbean. He goes to the Dragonfly Preschool here in Dallas every Tuesday and Thursday from 8:30am to 11:15am. He LOVES riding the bus to school and is adjusting to being around other kids and new people extremely well. The TANF orientation didn't go very well. I had to leave because he went into tantrum mode and so I go back this next week and Mom is going to come by and get him off the bus so that I can get that ball rolling. I need to be enrolled in the jobs program so I can get childcare assistance. I need that to be able to find a job. There are concerns with him having visitation with his "father" because it is sporadic and he is moving in with his girlfriend of a month and a half. I am not comfortable with them putting him in an animal pen to keep him corralled and with her slapping his hand hard enough to leave a mark instead of telling him no. I feel that this is something that his "father" should be doing. And I am hesitant on modifying things because of how much Daniel will fight me on them. He has three kids but doesn't really care about any of them. He wants to modify everything so he pays less and less support to us and it's not right. If he has money to go play and take his girlfriend and her kid to dinner and stuff all the time then he should man up and take care of the kids he ACTUALLY has. I am working on getting things modified through child support to possibly include supervised visitation because of the concerns I have with the way he is treated by Daniel and his girlfriend. Since living here apart from Daniel he has been growing by leaps and bounds and is actually finally starting to be a kid and live a good life. I think this is best for all of us if Daniel has limited contact with him. The behavioral problems when he comes home from Daniel and his girlfriend's place are puzzling to me. It makes me wonder what is really going on there.